About Vanessa
Prof. Vanessa Costello brings a decade of clinical experience to her counseling work in Oklahoma. She holds a Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Therapy and is a Licensed Professional Counselor - LPC with licensure in Arizona and Texas as well.
Vanessa writes plainly and meets people where they are when life feels overwhelming or uncertain. She focuses on everyday struggles like stress, anxiety, low self-esteem, depression, and major life changes.
Background and approach
She also helps with relationship and intimacy concerns, family and family-of-origin issues, caregiver stress, grief, and career or life-purpose questions. Vanessa uses practical tools to help people build coping skills and make small, steady changes. In sessions she blends techniques from cognitive behavioral approaches, motivational interviewing, and trauma-focused work.
Conversations tend to focus on identifying unhelpful patterns, setting realistic goals, and testing new behaviors between sessions. She describes therapy as a team effort where the client’s priorities guide the work. Her style is direct but compassionate.
She encourages honest talk about setbacks and progress. Clients can expect clear suggestions, skills to practice, and attention to the values that matter to them. Vanessa also has experience addressing women's issues, social anxiety, intimacy and commitment concerns, fertility-related stress, and compassion fatigue.
For people juggling caregiving, work, and personal needs, she helps sort priorities and build stronger daily routines.
Approaches you can use online
CBT, or cognitive behavioral therapy, looks at how thoughts, feelings, and actions connect. It helps people learn to notice unhelpful thoughts and try different behaviors to reduce anxiety, low mood, or social fears. The Gottman Method focuses on how partners communicate and solve problems; it offers concrete skills for improving connection, repairs after fights, and better conflict management. Motivational Interviewing is a short-term, goal-focused style that helps people find their own reasons to change and build commitment for steps like improving self-care or career direction.Finding the right approach is part of the work. Vanessa will talk with each person about goals, preferences, and what has helped or not helped before. Together they choose what to try first and adjust methods as progress is made, keeping problems and values in view throughout the process.
Online therapy formats include video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging, making it easier to fit sessions into busy lives. Video is useful for in-depth conversation and skill demonstrations. Phone sessions can be a good alternative when bandwidth is limited or a shorter check-in is needed. Live chat and text messaging work well for quick updates, brief coaching, or ongoing feedback between appointments.
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What this counselor works with
Most often
- Stress, Anxiety
- Relationship issues
- Self esteem
Also listed
- Anger management
- Career difficulties
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Commitment issues
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Coping with life changes
- Depression
- Family conflicts
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fertility issues
- Forgiveness
- Grief
- Intimacy-related issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- Life purpose
- Midlife crisis
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Women's issues
- Young adult issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 10 years
- Licensed
- Oklahoma, Texas, Arizona
- Languages
- English