About Paula
Paula Alexander is a licensed professional counselor in New Jersey who uses practical, down-to-earth methods to help people handle stress and anxiety. She writes plainly and focuses on clear steps people can use right away. Paula brings 26 years of experience to sessions and aims to make the first step feel less overwhelming.
Her style centers on listening without judgment and helping people name what matters to them. She uses approaches that encourage acceptance of difficult feelings while also building skills to change unhelpful habits.
Background and approach
Sessions often include short, doable exercises and chances to try new responses between meetings. Paula has worked with people facing addictions, trauma and abuse, anger, grief, and relationship strain. She also supports those coping with career stress, changes in life, and struggles with self-esteem.
She helps people address sleep and eating struggles, ADHD-related concerns, and issues linked to impulsivity and shame. Her background includes work across clinical settings that shaped a practical, client-focused way of working. Paula draws on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Client-Centered Therapy, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to tailor each plan.
She keeps things collaborative and adjusts strategies to fit each person's pace. In sessions Paula aims to reduce overwhelm and build useful tools. She helps people set small goals, practice skills, and track progress.
The goal is clearer thinking and more choices day to day.
Therapeutic approaches that translate to online care
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) helps people notice painful thoughts and feelings without getting stuck in them, then choose actions that match their values. It can be useful for anxiety, depression, and coping with change. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) focuses on identifying patterns of thinking that make problems worse and practicing new behaviors to reduce symptoms. It often helps with panic attacks, phobias, and sleep or eating concerns. Client-Centered Therapy emphasizes respectful, nonjudgmental listening and lets the person set the pace and goals of therapy.Finding the right approach is part of the work. Paula will collaborate with each person to determine which methods fit their needs, goals, and comfort level. Sessions can mix elements from ACT, CBT, and client-centered work so techniques match progress and preference.
Online therapy makes those methods more accessible. Video calls allow face-to-face conversation and visual cues; phone sessions work when bandwidth is limited or a quicker check-in is needed. Live chat and text-based messaging suit brief updates, between-session support, or people who prefer typing. These formats offer flexibility to schedule sessions around work, caregiving, or other obligations while keeping the focus on practical skills and steady progress.
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What this counselor works with
Also listed
- ADHD
- Anger management
- Bipolar disorder
- Career difficulties
- Coaching
- Codependency
- Compassion fatigue
- Coping with life changes
- Depression
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Eating disorders
- Family conflicts
- First responder issues
- Grief
- Guilt and shame
- Impulsivity
- Intimacy-related issues
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Parenting issues
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Post-traumatic stress
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Relationship issues
- Self esteem
- Sleeping disorders
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Young adult issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 26 years
- Licensed
- New Jersey
- Languages
- English